A swift kick in the pants teaches a lot
By: Steve Trubilla
In the course of things, there will always be questions. Some are more important than others, and given the subject and/or subjectivity, often the answers may vary.
It is reasonable to expect someone to respond when you ask them a question? Well, of course it is, or at least it used to be.
Replying to someone when they speak to you is really nothing more than the practice of common courtesy.
The operative word here is expect, or better stated, expectation.
Most of us are conditioned to respond to others based on how we expect them to conduct themselves.
An example of this is if you are walking along and someone accidently bumps into you, then you expect them to say: “I am sorry” or “Excuse me.”
Another is when you go out of your way to help someone you expect to hear, “Thank you.”
When you hear excuse me, or thank you the other person has the reasonable expectation that you will graciously acknowledge the gesture.
So what happens or what do you do when you do not hear the “excuse me,” or “thank you?”
Generally my guess is if your day is going well, you just let it go, thinking to yourself what a jerk.
You may even decide that possibly the person is just having a bad day, and, for that reason, let it go.
Of course if your day is not going well, then you may call the person out for their poor manners. My experience is that generally never works out very well, and makes everything worse.
Your intuition is realized; the person is a jerk.
They become indignant, an argument ensues, and now you have two problems. One of them is then just trying to get away from the person.
So then what is a person to do in these situations? What do you do when you are sitting in traffic and the person behind you has music blaring and thumping with vulgarities?
Think about this for a few minutes. How often do these kinds of things happen? They happen all of the time.
Another example is you hire someone to do something and pay them, only to find out they do not do what they say. At the end of it, you are left having to pay someone else to have it done right.
Now you know you have been taken, and you can always call a lawyer to pursue it in court. Well good luck with that.
Expect the lawyer to also take your money, not return phone calls, and then at some point tell you if you do this or that, for some more money, he/she will continue to work on it.
So, what do you do? The answer is at the end of it all, you just put up with it. You rationalize it is better to cut your losses and make excuses for the other person.
It is the reason most people no longer vote, why theft and fraud are common, elected officials can treat you like you owe them something, and people no longer go to public meetings.
Political correctness is out of control. We have compromised to the point that it is now ridiculous what passes for acceptable and not acceptable.
Yet we accept it.
People that lie, steal, are rude, and do not do what they are paid to do should not be tolerated.
We now live in a society where it has become the norm that they are.
Those most practiced in confidence games and manipulations hold the advantage and use the so-called legal system to get away with it.
It has become cliché to say that we live in a country of laws. Saying this paints the picture of justice.
Ask most people and they will tell you the court system has little to do with justice and much more to do with money.
Personally, I have no faith in it, do not trust most involved with it, and do not see it getting better anytime soon.
Maybe it would be better if we did away with 75 percent of the laws and replaced them by enforcing good manners.
Expect people to answer your questions, turn down their radios and do the job they are paid for.
When they do not, don’t make excuses for them,
Thank you for reading this, and I will not apologize for people that will not say excuse me, they are jerks.
Much of it could probably be fixed with a swift kick in the pants, and no they do not get an appeal.
By: Steve Trubilla
In the course of things, there will always be questions. Some are more important than others, and given the subject and/or subjectivity, often the answers may vary.
It is reasonable to expect someone to respond when you ask them a question? Well, of course it is, or at least it used to be.
Replying to someone when they speak to you is really nothing more than the practice of common courtesy.
The operative word here is expect, or better stated, expectation.
Most of us are conditioned to respond to others based on how we expect them to conduct themselves.
An example of this is if you are walking along and someone accidently bumps into you, then you expect them to say: “I am sorry” or “Excuse me.”
Another is when you go out of your way to help someone you expect to hear, “Thank you.”
When you hear excuse me, or thank you the other person has the reasonable expectation that you will graciously acknowledge the gesture.
So what happens or what do you do when you do not hear the “excuse me,” or “thank you?”
Generally my guess is if your day is going well, you just let it go, thinking to yourself what a jerk.
You may even decide that possibly the person is just having a bad day, and, for that reason, let it go.
Of course if your day is not going well, then you may call the person out for their poor manners. My experience is that generally never works out very well, and makes everything worse.
Your intuition is realized; the person is a jerk.
They become indignant, an argument ensues, and now you have two problems. One of them is then just trying to get away from the person.
So then what is a person to do in these situations? What do you do when you are sitting in traffic and the person behind you has music blaring and thumping with vulgarities?
Think about this for a few minutes. How often do these kinds of things happen? They happen all of the time.
Another example is you hire someone to do something and pay them, only to find out they do not do what they say. At the end of it, you are left having to pay someone else to have it done right.
Now you know you have been taken, and you can always call a lawyer to pursue it in court. Well good luck with that.
Expect the lawyer to also take your money, not return phone calls, and then at some point tell you if you do this or that, for some more money, he/she will continue to work on it.
So, what do you do? The answer is at the end of it all, you just put up with it. You rationalize it is better to cut your losses and make excuses for the other person.
It is the reason most people no longer vote, why theft and fraud are common, elected officials can treat you like you owe them something, and people no longer go to public meetings.
Political correctness is out of control. We have compromised to the point that it is now ridiculous what passes for acceptable and not acceptable.
Yet we accept it.
People that lie, steal, are rude, and do not do what they are paid to do should not be tolerated.
We now live in a society where it has become the norm that they are.
Those most practiced in confidence games and manipulations hold the advantage and use the so-called legal system to get away with it.
It has become cliché to say that we live in a country of laws. Saying this paints the picture of justice.
Ask most people and they will tell you the court system has little to do with justice and much more to do with money.
Personally, I have no faith in it, do not trust most involved with it, and do not see it getting better anytime soon.
Maybe it would be better if we did away with 75 percent of the laws and replaced them by enforcing good manners.
Expect people to answer your questions, turn down their radios and do the job they are paid for.
When they do not, don’t make excuses for them,
Thank you for reading this, and I will not apologize for people that will not say excuse me, they are jerks.
Much of it could probably be fixed with a swift kick in the pants, and no they do not get an appeal.
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